Once you understand the language of dogs and what your puppy “says” with his barks, wagging tail talk, and other body language, you’ll know how to talk to a dog with effective puppy communication. Remember that your puppy is not a mind reader and what’s “normal” behavior for people may be a totally foreign language and offensive to dogs. Instead, you can use “dog talk” to get your message across.
Humans are primates.
We touch and hug, gesture with our hands, and when we get upset our tone of voice often gets louder and higher pitched. All of these things can be confusing or even threatening to puppies especially, but also to adult dogs.
5 Common Puppy Communication Mistakes
1. Leaning over your puppy: We’re taller than pups, and it’s natural to lean down to talk or pet them. But “looming” over top of a dog intimidates him because, in dog talk, this means “I’m the boss, I’m in control.”
That can be upsetting or even frightening to pups that already accept your status as the boss. They may use appeasement gestures such as submissive wetting to show they’re no threat. Strange dogs that don’t know you may become aggressive or defensive when you lean over them. They simply fight back what they think of as a challenge.
Instead of leaning over the top of the puppy, give him space so he can approach you. Turn sideways and crouch or kneel on the floor so your height and stance don’t seem a challenge.
2. Staring with hard eye contact: Sure, she’s a little doll-baby pup but direct eye contact also can be intimidating.
Use the pup’s own calming signals to tell him you mean no harm. Turn your head away, avert your eyes, and move slowly to give the pup time to build up the courage to stand her ground or even approach.
3. Pats on the head: Imagine you are puppy-size and a hand half the size of your whole body swoops down toward the top of your head—YIKES! Wouldn’t you dodge and yelp, and run for cover, too?
Instead, think how puppies and dogs meet each other—smell communication with sniffs first, contact later. So offer your hand, palm down, for the baby dog to sniff the back of your fingers without risk of being grabbed. Then offer a scratch on the front of his chest or side of his neck. Avoid patting tops of puppy and dog heads until you know the pet very well and they’ve shown a good understanding of “human talk.”
4. Hugging: For puppies and dogs, hugs are not a sign of affection. Our pets use clasping to grab and wrestle during play or fights, during mating behavior, or simply to show dominance.
Forego the hugging and teach your children alternate ways to show affection to dogs. Otherwise, the puppy may lash out in retaliation of what she perceives to be an attack.
5. Kissing: Yes, the new puppy seems to lick-lick-lick you all the time, sort of like a kissing maniac. We often think of kissing as exclusively an expression of love and affection. But even among people, a kiss also can signify respect rather than adoration.
Dogs and puppies show their love in other ways. Licking is instead used to show deference, respect, and a declaration that, “I am no threat.” Subordinate dogs lick a more dominant dog—or person’s—face or side of the mouth as an appeasement gesture.
If you or your child try to mimic this doggy signal and “kiss” the dog on or near the mouth or eyes, in dog language this tells him that you’re submissive to him. That could get you both into trouble. A large majority of dog bites target kid faces because the child hugged or tried to kiss the dog.
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